You’ve moved out. You’ve got your own place. You still have a place at your parent’s? Wait, what? It’s normal for some and not-so-normal for others. We’re going to talk about the top things that come to mind when you think about people who have a room in their parent’s house once they move out.
Believe the hype. Kevin Hart is golden. That’s not what this is about but I just wanted to get that out there. Think Like a Man explored a lot of aspects from getting your college boyfriend to grow up and propose, to what it’s like to date a mama’s boy – and that’s what we’re going to focus on. Terrence Jenkins’ Michael was perfect on paper. He had a job, a beautiful smile and was considerate. In case you missed it a second ago – he was the movie’s resident mama’s boy. Which isn’t too bad if the guy is independent and his relationship with his mom doesn’t verge on Norman Bates. That wasn’t the case for Michael though. His mom did his laundry, he spent too much time with her and the cherry on top was the fact that he not only spent the night there once a week, but it was in his room that looked like he’d died in an accident when he was 12. Thank you 21 Jump Street for that reference and for noting how weird it is when parents have shrines of their kids.
As we learned yesterday, my best friend’s mom is a lot more understanding than my own. When it comes to my family – you move out and that’s it. If you want to leave anything behind it is going into the dreaded shed in the back that has battled termites, rain and a couple of fires thanks to neighbor’s meth labs or whatever. Yes, the place I grew up is as classy as Lindsay Lohan. While I wish my Backstreet Boys’ stuff could’ve been safer inside, it doesn’t bother me too much when I think about not having a defined space in my mom’s house anymore.
With my BFF’s older siblings being out of the house for years by the time they moved into her family’s new house when we were in high school, there was plenty of space. Fast forward to when it was time for her to leave for college and then later – life, her parents didn’t see a need to change up her room. They didn’t necessarily need her room for anything else, and in my head it was comforting to be able to look in there and see their daughter who was in San Francisco, Portland, Alaska – girl has lived in more places since college than I’ve been in my entire life.
With that, I thought who else better to talk to than the mother of my BFF, Alice. While my own mom fits my needs as a hands off kind of Roseanne like matriarch, it was always nice having Alice around as a second mother figure who was into crafting and being a part of the community; our families on paper are polar opposites. So more open when it came to space than my own, I knew she would be perfect to talk to about this subject since she indeed still has my BFF’s room all set up like she resides there.
During college, it’s totally normal for a 20-something to keep their bedroom at their parents house all done up like they still live there. Even if they now share a dorm and are rarely there. It provides a space for their things that didn’t make the cut to ship to a new space, and also the person themself when they come home for the weekends or during holidays to do their laundry and eat as much non-pizza and ramen as possible. Soon after graduation when said person then moves into their own place that doesn’t have a RA but instead an actual landlord, that’s when having a room at one’s parents not only takes an odd turn, but also stops the growth for everyone involved.