When you live far from the place you once called home and your loved ones, sometimes just dropping them a “hey” on Facebook just isn’t enough. Show them you’re thinking of them with these lovely gifts available on Etsy and elsewhere.
Not everyone who leaves home will feel homesick and struggle with the thought of going back vs. living on their own and doing their own thing. Some just pack up and go and see their family during the holidays and such, and others never look back. That’s the case for Robert Downey Jr.’s Hank Palmer in The Judge. After leaving Indiana and becoming a successful lawyer in Chicago, Palmer is drawn back to his hometown after years of never saying a word to the family left behind for his mother’s funeral.
As someone who has never been more than a couple hours from the woman she once resided in for nine months, I have reservations about moving out of California. Mainly because my mom has our family dog and the thought of something happening to her and not being able to go see her, that kills me. Yeah, yeah, I love my mom, dad and other family in Cabazon but Skuzzlebutt is my queen bee. Other than the dog I think about more than I’d like to admit, I will say it’s those little things that sometimes make me miss the town that caused me to be an angsty teen scrawling The Used lyrics all over my binders in high school.
A film school grad, Matt came to California, like many, wanting to work in movies and while reality can be a cruel bitch, he survives at a day job while working with his buddies on various projects here and there. When times are rough he thinks about heading to Virginia to be with his family, but then again, he doesn’t want to give up on his dreams. It’s the daily struggle for many, and we talked about that and what he really misses about his mom, dad and other family back east.
Just a month ago 40% of you said when it came time to move out, you packed up and headed to a whole new state. That means right now those 40% are sitting away from their family and likely not seeing them as much as those of us who either live not too far from our mom and dad, in the same town as them still, or for some of you – in the same house. When that happens the inevitable is that you’ll miss your loved ones from time to time. It’s natural to be homesick…or is it?
Sitting at the library in downtown, avoiding crazy people, I read in Susan Matt’s Homesickness: An American History that, “Expert literature written for mental health practitioners, as well as popular culture, have ceaselessly promoted the idea that homesickness is a condition that, with proper training can be eliminated in childhood. Consequently, those who feel it as adults are seen as maladjusted.” So we’re supposed to get over missing our mom’s when we’re kids and when we fly the nest, to have any sort of emotional distress is just wrong?