Friday nights used to be reserved for my ass sitting alone watching the hell out of TLC’s wedding show lineup. I would gasp at the beauty of the dresses on Say Yes, judge the shit out of every one of the participants on Four Weddings and even tried to watch other shows that never quite made it…No one cares about the bridesmaid dress, sorry! So yes, I fucking love me a wedding but when I got into a relationship and a year or so went by, the talk of marriage had me thinking, “Yeah, no. That is just too expensive.” I will always love the idea, but when someone else is picking up the tab and that’s what this week is about. Well, not on how to get someone to pay for your big day, but the idea of planning a wedding because this month is about marriage and you usually don’t have that without a big ceremony with family, friends, presents and some stress on top.
Not everyone is as sexually active as you think. Even with the invention of apps that literally deliver it to your door. It’s like takeout for your naughty parts. Anyways, yeah – not everyone is doing it and everyone has their own reasons for not partaking and here are eight of them. Be it because no one is offering, some fear of intimacy or even a literal lack of interest – there’s no shame here.
For decades now teen movies have been feeding us delicious lies about so many things; popularity, makeovers, and of course sex. Either you were “cool” and active in high school or you weren’t and even though it was based on teens and not adults, I feel like those movies continued to have an impact as we got older. Like we talked about with Becky, there are clear stigmas attached to being a virgin and they get worse with age.Teen movies set us up for that because how many are about the woes of a virgin just trying to get laid? Also, how many of them portray first times like an awesome event?
There was no way my virginity would have been nonexistent sooner than it had been because well, no one was really knocking on my door and I wasn’t really trying. That was of course after a panel at Comikaze led me to a dating site for geeks and I met numero uno. A girl not used to charm and such explicit conversations, I was swept under the hormonal tide. I definitely think low self-esteem and a shit show of a life at the time plus the naivety played into an emotional cluster fuck that was brewing.
Down in Irvine lives a woman named Becky who spends her time as a civil defense attorney. Slaying the law like a boss is what she does, but it’s what she doesn’t do that brings her here today. While some her age would avoid this topic like an old classmate in Walmart on a trip back to their hometown at Thanksgiving, Becky isn’t shy at all about sharing her choice to be a virgin. She points out the stigmas, pressure and more…