Lacking a need for social interaction was inherited from my mother but as I got older, I started to sit back and see people older than me without anyone by their side and the thought of being 45, still hanging out with people half my age and having no one to come home to – that was a fear that started to arise. So after going to a singles panel at Comikaze, I dipped my little toe into the dating pool of the online kind.
Every week someone else comes in to give their side of the topic, but this week the interview fell through. I didn’t want to just post a “Be Back Soon” post and see you Wednesday when I gave you a personal note per usual, so I decided to sit and jot down some thoughts on what I’d hoped to learn from the interview at hand since like with many aspects in life, dating is not the same for everyone.
Our grandmas married the boy next door. Our moms dated a guy she met at work or in school. Us? Some go old school and stick close to home, others still marry their college sweethearts or their Jim Halperts, but more and more of us are turning to the world wide web of first dates, hook ups and love that is online dating. We could’ve just stuck with good ol’ fashioned dating but as someone who lives on her laptop and stays on top of the news, I know online dating and the use of apps is where we’re at as a culture so that’s the focus this week as we kick off a month that’ll cover this, crushing as an adult, being in a relationship, the dreaded break up and even worse the curse of being dubbed “forever alone,” or blessed – depending on how you look at it.
Not all clubs are about that EDM/hip hop life. Meaning that there is a place for all of us out there to head to got a night out. These the top alternative clubs out there that stray from the supposed norm, but where you can go ahead and just be you.
Clubbing has a lot of positive attributes like the social interactions, sense of belonging and that feeling like you can be yourself there. Yes, we’ve gone over that a few times now but what about those bad attributes of this pastime? Anyone can fall into drugs and a serious case of alcoholism, but it’s more so when you’re put into a space where it’s more present. Amy noted that she’s not too big on drinking, which makes her in the rare grand scheme because going out to the club usually involves something to calm the nerves be it a cocktail or a smoke of some kind. Of course that’s not always the case and I’m not saying going out this weekend will lead you down a path of addiction, but like we saw in Party Monster, it can and does happen in some cases.