A lover of music and basketball, Zach Blumenfeld said he gravitated towards those that shared his interests when he was growing up. Today one may assume he’d just stick to guys and gals whose lives are centered around music as he’s the bassist in LA’s own Culprit – but he assures us that he isn’t too focused on just hanging around those with musical mindsets. Now we’ll see what Zach had to say about how he’s found friendships through connecting on a music level – but how that’s not the only thing he looks for in a friend.
Kendra: When you started to be more than a music fan, and actually make music yourself – did you start to notice your friends were more in the scene rather than not?
Zach: Definitely. As I got more serious about making music and wanting that to be long term, I noticed which friends wanted to stay involved in the music scene because they were passionate about something particular and which friends more considered it to be a hobby or pastime.
Kendra: What majority of your friends would you say are in bands today?
Zach: That’s tough to say, although my guess would be around 50%. I have made a lot of new friends via music and touring that have stayed friends and are still active in bands, however I always actively try to have friends that live outside of that world with different passions as well.
Kendra: When it comes to making and keeping friends, we like to have that major commonality. It’s not just people in bands, it’s every facet of life. Why do you think that is?
Zach: I think with anything you put your all into or spend a lot of time working on and trying to perfect, there’s always the desire to find others that can relate to your successes and struggles on multiple levels, to help keep us sane and motivated to continue down the path we chose.
Kendra: Because of that, do you ever fear not liking the same things as your friends anymore will cause you all to drift apart?
Zach: Not at all. I think it’s great to not necessarily love everything your friends do, or try to find something about it that you like. It’s important to have comfort in your individuality and understand what sets you apart. For example, I have plenty of close friends that enjoy football and baseball, whereas I don’t really…or plenty of friends that love Pokemon, which is something I never got super heavy into.
Kendra Maybe it has or hasn’t happened to you, but have you noticed that when a person leaves a band and goes and gets a “real” job – they start to distance themselves from their old social circle that was more music based?
Zach: I guess I’ve seen examples of this, but I’ve also seen the flip side of it as well. It all depends really on the situation and what that person’s reasons for leaving were in the first place. It could be because of a relationship between friends that goes sour, or another responsibility that calls, or an unexpected desire to do something else… there are numerous different circumstances, but to answer the question a bit more directly, I think people distance themselves from their old musical social circle because they feel they won’t be as accepted or they just feel they have to move on.
Zach: Most definitely. I’m always open to trying new things (especially food, haha) and meeting new kinds of people. I think it broadens your perspective and makes you a better and more well-rounded person. Plus I think the more you open yourself up to new situations, the more you learn about yourself and what you do and don’t like.
Kendra: Do you think it’s harder for new people to come into a social group if they don’t know much about the friends’ shared interests?
Zach: Yeah I think it’s hard coming into a new social group without much understanding of what their shared interests are, however I think the best way to overcome that is to try and be confident about your personal interests and forthcoming in sharing those things. You might be surprised at the types of people that like the same things as yourself.
Kendra: Lastly, what is the biggest high and lowest low of having like-minded friends?
Zach: I think the biggest high in having like-minded friends is feeling like you’ve struck the jackpot with friends you feel you can do anything with, and I think the lowest low would be not having the opportunity to grow in certain ways by at least sometimes surrounding yourself with people that put you out of your comfort zone.